[EF #6] Alter Ego


Because I really want to know about this topic, I browse some info about alter ego but I am clueless in the middle of the reading. That’s why I ask my cousin, who take Master Psychology in UNPAD, Bandung. She said that every people have an alter ego, either they realized or not and that’s not the bad thing. Alter ego is one of self-defense mechanism and influenced by the background of our childhood (trauma in the childhood or our parenting history).

My voila moment was when my cousin (her name is Devi, yes Devi and I am Deva:P) give an example about myself:

Her: Dev, let me give you an example. You are career woman and firm. But in the other side, you can act like a child. The ‘childish’ is your alter ego. You rarely to show the other side of you to random person. You only showing ‘the childish’ side on your close person, such as our family and/or your best friends. And nothing wrong with that.

And suddenly I agree with her. And smile silently. 😛

She continues her explanation:

If someone has many identity – let’s say double identity- it because her/his ego strength very low.


When I shared this explanation to my best friend, she said: Oh maybe like a very friendly person in the chat room but when we do a meet up, we feel like a stranger and stop talking.

Well…perhaps. Maybe they love to type via phone but not love talking. But I’d prefer to assume that the person not interesting to talk with us rather than think is it her/his alter ego or not. As simple as that.


Now, I am looking for my choki-choki! My alter ego calling my name. Hahaha…but wait, are we to old to love choki-choki?